Biblical Affirmations for Dealing with Church Hurt

Biblical Affirmations for Dealing with Church Hurt

Biblical Affirmation Resource

Dealing With Church Hurt

When coming out of church hurt, it’s normal to be feeling pretty battered and bruised.

Low self-esteem.

Deep pain and sadness.

Fear and insecurity about the future.

Distrust of other Christians.

These are just a few of the things you might be feeling if you’ve been through an experience with an unhealthy, even toxic, form of Christianity.

And as I’ve said, time and time again, one of the best ways to deal with these kinds of fears, doubts and negative emotions is to get firmly rooted in what the Bible says about these topics. (For another resource to help you root your identity in what God says of you, check out this post).

That’s where Biblical affirmations come in. Taking affirmations from Biblical truths, we can still our spiralling thoughts and remind ourselves of God’s truth.

But first, let’s discuss the differences between ‘Biblical affirmations’ and non-Christian ‘positive affirmations’.

Are Affirmations a Sin?

This is a big questions that a lot of Christians ask and with some good reason.

A quick look at some of the non-Christian ‘positive affirmations’ out there shows that many are not functioning out of Christian values.

Take for example one finance blogger out there who came up with a list of positive affirmations to help attract money.

Here are just some examples she includes in her quite extensive lists of positive affirmations, intended for reading to yourself in front of a mirror each day:

So, I’m sure most of you can see what’s wrong with these ones, but let’s break it down anyway with a couple of examples.

What’s Wrong with Non-Christian Positive Affirmations?

‘Money is the root of joy and comfort’.

This one is an easy one. As Christians we definitely do not believe that the root of joy and comfort is money. Quite the opposite. Jesus said that it’s easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than for a rich person to enter the kingdom of Heaven.


Because money is a great shiny, flashy human construction that can become so mesmerising that we let it take the place in our lives and hearts that Jesus should.

Jesus is the root of our joy and comfort. Allowing anything else, including money, to take that place is idolatry and, like all idols, will ultimately disappoint you.

After all, isn’t it one of the biggest (yet most accurate) clichés out there that some of the richest, most successful people in the world are deeply unhappy?

‘I deserve to make more money’.

‘I am a money magnet, money is drawn to me’.

‘Everything I touch turns to gold’.

These affirmations all point to more or less the same dangerous concept. They all work to help you convince yourself that there’s something innately wonderful in yourself that can attract money … that money is somehow your ‘right’.

As Christians we do believe that God has given us certain gifts … but by His grace.

What do I mean by that?

It means we don’t deserve them but He loves us and gives them to us anyway.

If we’re honest with ourselves, we all know that we’re broken and imperfect.

Anything good that we’re blessed with isn’t because we ‘deserve’ it but because Jesus repaired the relationship that our sin had broken with God. When He sees us He doesn’t see our imperfections – instead we’re clothed in Jesus’ perfection as He died on that cross for the sins of others.

What’s Right with Biblical Affirmations

The difference with Biblical affirmations is that we use them to remind ourselves of truths rooted in Biblical truth.

Jesus did something similar when He was being tempted by the lies of the Devil out in the wilderness. Quoting Bible verses from memory, He could cling to the truth in the midst of the Devil’s attempts to mess with His perception of reality in that moment.

How to Use Biblical Affirmations Resource

If you go to the resources page of this blog (you need to subscribe to get the password to access) you can find a complete, printable list of Biblical affirmations for healing after church hurt – in both colour and black and white. Once you’ve downloaded them, here’s some possible ways you can use them.

1. The Biblical Affirmations for Dealing with Church Hurt Jar

Print and cut out the Biblical Affirmations on paper.

Roll them up.

Put them in a jar.

When your head is spinning with negative feelings or flashbacks, take one out, open it and read it.

2. The Biblical Affirmations Key Chain

I call this one a key chain because it’s designed so that you can take it with you anywhere – in a bag or pocket – ready for when you need a burst of truth.

Print and cut out the Biblical affirmations on card.

Then punch a hole in the top-left corner of the cards.

Tie the cards together with a piece of string or ribbon.

Carry it around with you for when you need them.

Biblical Affirmations for Dealing with Church Hurt

So, without further ado, here is an overview of the Biblical affirmations for healing after church hurt that you can find on the printable resources on our resources page (subscribe for our email updates to get the password to access).

1. Self-Esteem

Particularly if your gifting or worth have been undermined by church leaders or members, the area of self-esteem can be a real battle ground for people in the aftermath of church hurt. Here are some Bible affirmations to help you remember your true value in Christ.

I am a Child of God

Bible Verse the Affirmation Comes From:

See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does not know us is that it did not know him.

1 John 3:1

God has a Purpose for Me

Bible Verse the Affirmation Comes From:

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.

Jeremiah 29:11

I Can Do Anything with God

Bible Verse the Affirmation Comes From:

 I can do all things through him who strengthens me.

Philippians 4:13

I am Deeply Loved by God

Bible Verse the Affirmation Comes From:

My beloved is mine, and I am his

Song of Solomon 2:16

My Past Does Not Define Me

Bible Verse the Affirmation Comes From:

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.

2 Corinthians 5:17

God Has Called Me to be Bold and Courageous

Bible Verse the Affirmation Comes From:

 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.

Joshua 1:9

2. Strength in Painful Situations

When we’re in pain – whether in the dentist’s chair or of the emotional kind – we all need reminders that the pain isn’t meaningless. Here are some Biblical affirmations to help with that.

God Will Use Everything I’m Going Through for My Good

Bible Verse the Affirmation Comes From:

And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.

Romans 8:28

God is Making Me a Better, More Compassionate and Stronger Person Through These Painful Situations

Bible Verse the Affirmation Comes From:

Behold, I have refined you, but not as silver; I have tried you in the furnace of affliction.

Isaiah 48:10

I am Blessed for my Suffering and will be Comforted for it.

Bible Verse the Affirmation Comes From:

Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.

Matthew 5:4

My Sadness is Temporary, I will be Joyful Again

Bible Verse the Affirmation Comes From:

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8.

3. Fear and Insecurity About the Future

God Will Complete His Purpose for My Life

Bible Verse the Affirmation Comes From:

And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ..

Philippians 1:6

If I Trust in God and Not Myself, God Will Get Me Where I Need to Go

Bible Verse the Affirmation Comes From:

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.

Proverbs 3:5-6

God’s Love and Compassion for Me Never End

Bible Verse the Affirmation Comes From:

But this I call to mind,
    and therefore I have hope:

The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases;
    his mercies never come to an end;
They are new every morning;
    great is your faithfulness.

Lamentations 3: 21-23

My Treasure is in Heaven, Where Nothing Can Destroy It

Bible Verse the Affirmation Comes From:

For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.

2 Corinthians 4:17-18.

God Will Take Care of Me, No Matter What.

Bible Verse the Affirmation Comes From:

Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord,
    whose trust is the Lord.
He is like a tree planted by water,
    that sends out its roots by the stream,
and does not fear when heat comes,
    for its leaves remain green,
and is not anxious in the year of drought,
    for it does not cease to bear fruit.

Jeremiah 17:7-8.

4. Distrust of Other Christians

When you’ve been hurt where you may have thought you’d never be hurt – by Christians – the idea of making yourself vulnerable can be scary. Here are some affirmations to help you when you’re ready to put yourself out there and connect with Christian community again.

Christian Community, When Healthy, Can Be Beautiful And Deeply Fulfilling

Bible Verse the Affirmation Comes From:

Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.

Galatians 6:2.

There are True Friends Out There

Bible Verse the Affirmation Comes From:

A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.

Proverbs 17:17.

5. Leaving Toxic Christian Community

A Biblical affirmation to support you if you decide to leave your church or Christian community.

It’s Better to Leave Toxic Christian Community than Become Like Them

Bible Verses the Affirmation Comes From:

Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise,

    but the companion of fools will suffer harm.

Proverbs 13:20

Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”

1 Corinthians 15:33

Prompts for Thought

Which Biblical affirmations speak to you the most at this time?

Which areas have you been battling in as a result of church hurt?

What do you make of non-Christian ‘positive affirmations’?

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